I use the term pansexual to describe my attraction as I was introduced to it under the idea of a lesser focus on 'what' a person has and more 'who' a person is, which is very much how my attraction works.
I also tend to add on that I'm pansexual-leaning-gay because I also prefer those who present more masculine over feminine. Someone I speak to a lot actually said a great thing - that labels are more a way of naming an abstract idea, but people are still individuals.
That said, this was an interesting read, and any time I express pansexuality or what my relation to the label is it's not in a way intending to be phobic, but more giving my experience.
I agree with what Elizabeth Heilbrun also says, communities need to work together, rather than tear each other down. I also view intersectionality as massive in this - and massive in gaining acceptance in a world that is still very cis-hetro-normative focused.